Reality Bites By James Norton

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OK so this is one of THOSE Reality Bites where members of my family cringe because I am going to ramble about my personal life Рeven though I always think nobody bothers to read my ramblings – so who cares what I write about.

So here we go. Without being too personal, let‚Äôs just say I have had some guilt and unresolved emotional issues I have been carrying inside me for the better part of the last 10-plus years.  Most of them revolve around a certain person who was in my life in a big way for many years and who was my closest friend until she was killed in an accident 11 years ago.

I have been trying to visit her grave and let go of some of the unresolved emotional stuff, but quite frankly, haven‚Äôt been able to get past the front gate.  That‚Äôs not good when you‚Äôre trying to deal with other emotional issues in your life ‚Äì mostly relationship based ‚Äì and you can‚Äôt get someone else out of your head.  I hope that makes sense.

I have managed to talk somewhat about the situation with a few very close friends, my parents and my therapist, but I wasn‚Äôt getting anywhere, and it has been very frustrating to me.  That changed the other night.

Now I am not the type of person who has a “revelation” and runs to the roof, grabs a megaphone and shouts out to the masses, but I definitely feel motivated enough to write about it here. What am I dancing around you might ask?

It was suggested to me that I sit with a medium who might be able to ‚Äúchannel‚Äù the person who has passed on, and maybe I could get some closure or whatever it is I have been looking for.  I was a bit skeptical, so was my therapist, but my friends were very supportive, and it was one of them who made the appointment, picked me up and took me there, waited for me and even paid for it. So I went with an open mind, but with some preconceived notions about what was going to happen (or not happen).

It started off a little strange and earthy crunchy for my tastes with the candles, the rocks and the patchouli, but. I went out with a woman once who was very into that stuff so it wasn‚Äôt completely foreign to me. So I went with the flow right out of the gate.  There was minor chit chat at the beginning, some questions about me, why I was there, what I do for a living, etc ‚Äì but nothing too revealing I kept my cards close to the vest so to speak.

Then she started flipping a few cards, explained what they meant and finally came the time to ‚Äúchannel‚Äù my friend, the part that would be next to impossible for me to buy into. The chatter began, and it was pretty benign to start off with, which I expected, a couple of close ‚Äúguesses‚Äù I was calling them in my head.  All of a sudden, she hit me with something my friend supposedly said to her to tell me, something that I never told anyone on the planet about, ever. The exact basis for the guilt and unresolved emotional issues that tie me to this person.

There were a few other items she mentioned that I hadn‚Äôt told another person on the planet, but this one particular bit of information was so deeply personal and private that only my friend and I would have known it. And that‚Äôs when I was convinced that there really was something special and much to benefit from by sitting with a medium.  I can only hope that other people who might not consider this type of thing normally approach it with an open mind.

It worked for me, because I feel like a weight has been taken off my shoulders, finally.